If partners have little or no desire for Sex
Differences in the desire for Sex, the so-called sexual Appetence, in partnerships is the rule rather than the exception. Depending on the size of the difference in desire between the partners, this involves imbalance a high Potential for dissatisfaction with the partnership, because the sexual needs of a partner remain so may be chronically under-fulfilled.
Partnership test as a way to self-help
Therapeutic help is not taken from the partners typically. The Situation deteriorated over time, however, rather than improving. Psychologists in the Thera project, talk at the Institute of psychology of the University of Göttingen therefore developed in several years of work, a new opportunity for self-help: A partnership test, which is a Supplement to the tried-and-tested partnership test “Sexual desires”.
In combination, these two partnership test is an Instrument with which in a simple manner, without the involvement of a therapist, opportunities can be found, to re-desire to develop and to existing Differences in the desire to better deal with it. With detailed in the partnership test “More Lust” can the improvement opportunities are identified, which can be implemented by the partners. Addressed are, for example, typical behavior, the desire to make or avoid, as well as body care or dealing with a characteristic desire of the enemy of stress factors.
Study on the sexual aversion
In an accompanying study, it was investigated how common it is in partnerships to be a Problem, if one of the partners has little or no desire for Sex, and how well the partners are able to solve this Problem itself. In the investigation 10372 men and women took part, which were in the Mediterranean for 10 years in a partnership. The range of fresh couples in love, to couples who already have the Golden wedding.
The results of the study
- For 65% of men and 54% of women distributed desire for Sex is unequal to a Problem, which is shown in the following graphic:
Unequal desire for Sex: 65% of men and 54% of women perceive it as a Problem that one of the two Partner has less desire for Sex than the other.
- The partners, it is usually difficult, this Problem does not deal with: 87% of men and women, the unequal use of desire as a Problem call them, are satisfied with the way the partnership it will be dealt with.
- These Figures show that it hardly matters that there are more likely to be men (75%) than women (31%), have more desire for Sex. The dissatisfaction affects both partners equally.
Unequal desire for Sex represents, according to the present results, a very common Problem in partnerships. More than half the partnership is affected, and the Problem can not be solved by the partners without external help, in most cases, satisfactory.