Support and challenge – As children self-confident and strong
All parents want strong children who believe in themselves, and their needs, without fear, to Express, and with open eyes through life. “From a child to a confident personality is that it takes a lot of heat, and a sense of security, attention and affection, but also support and encouragement,” says Karin Schreiner-Kürten, a psychologist at the AOK-Bundesverband. For a child to live happy and self-confident, you need to have the love and Affection of his parents for sure. “Support your child and to trust him a little,” advises Karin Schreiner-Kürten. “Give your child the feeling that it is valuable and unique, thus you will strengthen his self-esteem.” In addition to the parents, teachers, educators, relatives and friends can do a lot for the positive development of a child.
The Praise does not forget
It is also important praise and recognition. “Highlight small successes, mishaps as an opportunity from which the child can learn something,” advises the psychologist. It is generally accepted, should evaluate the adults never the Person of the child, but to give always his behaviour feedback. Instead of “you’re evil”, it is not to say, for example, better to “it’s OK that you’re throwing your toys on the floor.”
At the same time, parents should watch over their offspring excessively, but to him age-appropriate freedom, in which he will discover his creativity and experience can make. When the self-employed, Investigate, Move, Play and can get to know the child and the first to have success experiences.
“Every child must learn also to represent his own point of view and, thus, resistance in buying the shaping the self-awareness,” says the psychologist. The parents should accept his opinions and decisions in the family. At the same time, each adolescent learn to accept rules. As a child, fulfilling every desire, learn to do without.
This deficit in the development leads to a low tolerance for frustration, and can arise later in life as a serious disadvantage. Carpenter-Kürten: “people with a low tolerance for frustration are more vulnerable for the escape in addictive behavior than others, who have learned to do without for once.”
Don’t give up
The parents should also be aware that you are an important role model for your son or daughter. “Who is sitting, for example, even for hours in front of the TV, has little credibility, if he wants to forbid the young to the television,” explains Karin Schreiner-Kürten. “It is better to set a good example.” This is also true when dealing with alcohol.
The way parents resolve conflicts with each other, is also crucial for the later behaviour of the child. Promote also means to challenge. “Do not give up too quickly, if your son or daughter’s trust. Keep patience, if the child is afraid, for example, in the swimming pool before jumping into the water,” recommends Karin Schreiner-Kürten.